Practice making requests based on the Somatic Consent Egagement System
What is a ConsentLab?
ConsentLab is an experiential play space to practice the dynamics taught in the Wheel of Consent. It is a 4-hour workshop starting with an introduction and consent games, and finishing with the Lab itself, which is a guided circle structure where people make requests based on consent and agreements.
What happens in a ConsentLab?
The introduction is a playful and fun way to get to know each other. In preparation for the Lab, participants learn the consent dynamics and communication tools for expressing limits and desires.
In the Lab itself, we sit in a circle and practice making real requests. This anchors an understanding of the power of desire and value of limits when making agreements. It is important that everyone takes responsibility for themselves, both in making a request and responding to a request.
For example, if you would like to receive a back massage for 10 minutes, you express your desire and make a request to a person of your choice: “will you massage my back for 10 minutes?” If the other person is willing to do so, you both go to the side of the circle and carry out the agreement, not more than that, but maybe less if one of you chooses to. After the agreed time is over, you both come back to the circle and continue to make or receive requests.
We complete the workshop with a closing circle for people to reflect on the experience and talk about what they discovered about themselves.
There can be nudity, sensual and sexual dynamics in the room during the Lab. Nobody has to participate in anything but you do have to be ok with others following their own desires in a consensual way. For those who choose to participate and respond positively to a request, they will be able to do so from an empowered place. There is NO sexual intercourse or exchange of bodily fluids during the entire event.
Invite the ConsentLab to your community and become facilitator!