We start with an introduction and consent games which are a playful way to get know each other. In preparation for the Lab, participants learn the consent dynamics and communication tools for expressing desires and limits.
In the Lab itself, we practise making real requests. This anchors an understanding of the power of desire and value of limits when making agreements. It is important that everyone takes responsibility for themselves, both in making a request and responding to a request.
And I am there to support you!
For example, if you would like to dance and be observed in a breakout room for 3 minutes, you express your desire and make a request to the person of your choice: “may I dance while you watch for 3 minutes?” If the other person is willing to do so, you both go to a breakout room and carry out the agreement. After the agreed time is over, you both come back to the main room and continue to make or receive requests.
We complete the workshop with a closing for people to reflect on the experience and talk about what they discovered about themselves.
This workshop is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their communication in relationships – personal or professional, with lovers, friends, parents, children or colleagues. No prior experience is necessary.
All gender and sexual orientations are welcome.
You can come to the online ConsentLab to practice making requests, to practise saying ‘no’, or simply to have fun and connect with new people. Some people may come to the event to practise saying ‘no’ to every request, and some may come to practice receiving a ‘no’. Some people just come to participate by observation.
But most importantly, you come to be you and to learn that you get to choose how, when and where you engage – maybe even not at all.