Somatic Consent is an engagement system in which we learn to drop into our sensory inflow while we are in action. This brings us into connection with our sensations and feelings in a transformative way. It provides a neurological upgrade of our emotional intelligence, somatic capacity, and ability to feel and be. The end result is a transformative container for the benefit of all involved.
This is a practice that is both personal and collective, both scientific and spiritual. It allows us to become present and attentive in a way that is deeper than we have ever experienced before. Through Somatic Consent, we can consciously connect to ourself, others, and the world we live in.
Matthias Schwenteck is a sex and intimacy coach, facilitator and practitioner. He supports people in learning how to communicate, how to enjoy their skin, and how to deepen their experience of touch—while simultaneously inviting much more ease and freedom into their lives.
As human beings, we all need intimacy. We all want meaningful connection with those that are dear to us. But how many of us are actually keeping ourselves from this because of our conditioned ways of relating?
We all needed to develop unconscious survival strategies in order to belong.
Most of us have the neurological patterning that “I do something to make you feel happy, so that you love me and I will belong”. We have taught ourselves that our actions are about giving for the sake of others and that receiving through our own action only manifests as shadow, violation, or abuse. But what if the opposite was true?
Somatic Consent offers us the tools to confront our own discomfort, break our old patterns, and learn how to respond more authentically to the stimulus of the world around us. It teaches us how to ask for permission, and how to go into an authentic action for our own pleasure and receive pleasure in a way that benefits everyone involved.