1.4 Thought-ware Upgrade – Disconnecting doing from giving
Most of us have the neurological patterning that goes something like;
“If I do something to make you feel happy, you’ll love me = I will belong”.
We’ve all developed unconscious survival strategies in order to belong.
We’ve been conditioned into thinking that going into action means that we’re giving for the sake of others, and that receiving through our own action only manifests as selfishness or violation.
What if we were able to go into consensual action for our own benefit while receiving from a place of authenticity?
What if you’re able to confront your discomfort, honestly communicate your needs, break old patterns and learn how to respond more authentically to the stimulus of the world around you?
All you need to do is ask for permission
This simple request leads to a neurological upgrade of your somatic capacity (body intelligence), emotional intelligence and ability to feel, respond and create consent that benefits all involved.
When you ask for permission you begin to disconnect the two conditioned behaviour patterns below;
1. going into action while focused on the movement towards the other/their response
2. going in to action to feel a sense of belonging
The following video explains the old understanding of giving and receiving.
Inner Reflection
Take a few moments to notice the difference between the actions below
Your action for you (you are receiving):
Think of an action you made towards someone in the past that was for you, fulfilling your own desire.
Their action for you (you are giving):
Think of an action someone else made that was for you, fulfilling your own desire.
Your action for them (you are giving):
Consider an action you made in the past for someone else, to fulfill their desire.
Their action for them (you are giving):
Can you also think of an action that someone else made, involving you, that fulfilled their own desire?
