4 Pillars of Relating

Online Training

Learn tools for the greatest connection to yourself and others.

This training will profoundly enhance your relationship skills. Discover effective communication of desires, establishing boundaries, and forging agreements. Embrace emotional fluency and personal/spiritual growth. Explore pathways to heighten skin sensitivity, fostering meaningful touch and connections. These tools empower you to embrace radical responsibility for your choices and actions within your world.

Format

An online training to complete at your own pace..

Engage in numerous interactive games and exercises designed for effortless, lighthearted, and mindful learning. Apply these activities to both personal and professional contexts. This course welcomes all levels, so whether you’re a novice or experienced, embrace your starting point and unlock fresh levels of awareness.

Plus

A series of live Zoom calls laying the groundwork for Somatic Consent.

Join a vibrant online learning community and embark on a collective journey through group sessions led by Matt or his trained facilitators. You’ll navigate a series of videos, maps, and experiential exercises, ensuring an effortless and mindful learning experience. These practices are applicable to both personal and professional realms. This training accommodates all levels—whether you’re new or seasoned, start from where you are and elevate your awareness.

What you will learn

Create sustainable relationships and intimacy beyond goal-driven sexuality.
Understand the functionality of the nervous system and how to create safety for yourself.
Activate the somatic nervous system and your default connection to pleasure through touch.
Use your own hands (and entire body) as an unlimited source of pleasure and connection to yourself and others.
The difference between giving and receiving and discover who it is for when you engage with someone.
Apply Somatic Consent as a foundation for conscious relating.
Communicate boundaries, needs and desires clearly and directly.
Practice making choices and identify, value and ask for what you want.
Re-define 'relationship' based on sovereignty, integrity, respect, choice, and trust.
Take the goal out of sexual encounters and follow the pleasure.
Stop being ‘nice’ and move beyond pleasing.
Identify and move beyond survival strategies and shadow behaviours.
Apply all of this in your daily life with a partner, colleagues, friends, and family.

“That was an amazing experience. I feel the echoes in every fibre of my being and every last cell. I've taken so many workshops but this is the only one that helped me see exactly where I am and where I have a choice to empower myself through touch, pleasure, and action. Thanks to Matt for masterfully articulating and facilitating a safe space.”

Recently, I attended the ‘4 Pillars of Relating' workshop. Despite my prior knowledge of the consent and the 3-minute game, along with a solid understanding of relationship dynamics, I'm now diving even deeper into the somatic realm. With each experience, I'm integrating these teachings more profoundly. It's like I'm unveiling new layers, allowing me to bring these insights into my relationships. I'm gaining a clearer, deeper perspective on what truly matters to me. I'm understanding not just what I seek but also how I want to shape my future relationships. It's becoming evident that this transformation is attainable. I'm overflowing with happiness and gratitude for this growth. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey."

"Matt's workshop offers incredible insights and practical tools for connecting with ourselves and partners, fostering transparency, and taking charge of our desires. It's about nurturing healthier relationships, mutual understanding, and shedding assumptions and expectations. Learn to communicate better, clarify values, boundaries, and projects – a life-changing workshop for authentic living. No pressure, just a safe, comfortable, didactic space. With each session, I delve deeper, integrating these lessons. New layers unfold, enriching my relationships. I'm gaining a clear perspective on what truly matters, shaping future relationships authentically. Transformation is within reach, and I'm grateful for this journey of growth."

I recently attended Matthias' '4 Pillars' workshop. It's been 8 years since I participated in a Intimacy workshop, and I'm once again deeply moved. The depth and quality with which the content is presented to the audience surprised and reaffirmed me. My initial concern was a lengthy monologue with excessive listening, but the workshop's balance of content delivery and interactive moments with others was spot on. As someone who organizes events, I'm convinced – if I ever have the opportunity – I would definitely go to Matthias workshops and participate."

A solid introduction to the evolutionary dynamic of a somatic education combined with relational engagement.
Deepen your experience of intimacy, connection and embodiment through feeling self-awareness and relational attunement.
Move your relationship from survival to trust as you explore self-love and connection.
Own your innocent vulnerability in a space of permission and agreements.
Reclaim your body and skin as an intelligent recourse, an inner compass with your felt senses.
Explore to be fully present in the body and practice your unique expression in your own space and in connection to you peers.
Experience the base of self-love and self-care.
Develop the capacity to take radical responsibility for your boundaries and desires, through present moment awareness.
Evolve your sensitivity for the impact you have on others.
Become aware of who you really are as the gift here on earth.
Take part of spiritual evolution from within.

What you will learn

Interpersonal Neurorphysiology of Self- and Co-Regulation
Shadows engagement & power dynamics in relationships
Conscious Communication & Relational agreements structures
The Power of Vulnerability
About Somatic Consent as a spiritual path

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